Capital Furs

Yesterday i went on a minny date.  I met someone who is stunning a beautifull young fur and for the first time I had felt loved.  I have never felt loved before, it is truly a feeling like no other.  I have long been known to have armor plated emotions but this is an undeseribable pain that pierces through my armor deep into my heart.  I don't know what to do.  There is still a chance, it is eirly in the game but already I am lost and woonded. What should I do it hurts.

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I'd remain positive.

As you said, it's still early. If you think the worst, you're going to scare this person away then you WILL be hurt. Nobody really likes a pessimist, so do what you can to show a 'you' that's confident and positive, everyone likes people like that.

Actually I'll post it here.

I've been in three relationships in this world. Why? Cause I'm Picky. >.< Sure people have crushed on me, but I've never felt the same about them.

Like Meer said stay positive. If there's one thing I've learned n my very first relationship, it was that. I had a bisexual boyfriend, and I was always afraid he'd sleep with girls because I can't offer him the two parts they have. -----Another thing was going fast. I was young. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what was too much or what was too little, and I'd always get really nervous around him >.<. Lemme tell you from personal experience, you're going to regret it if you go too fast in a relationship. It was already almost a month in the relationship, and well, let's just say I "Hopped in a bed with him." We got super close and I regret doing shit with him. Thank the heavens I realized that this wasn't what I wanted and saved my virginity ^-^. But....relationship went downhill from there. He wanted more. I didn't >.<. And we got into fights, we both had different values. He wanted mostly sex and I'm all, "Kay, there's more than sex to a relationship." Anyways, to make my life story short, he cheated on my, I broke up with him, he told me I'd always fail and shit.

So yeah, don't rush and if you really do like him, stick with him. Don't move on to anymore.

So using from what I learned from mistakes, My second Relationship was rather successful though we felt we were better off being friends. But we didn't rush anything, and the most important thing is, we had fun. (Not the sexual term) It's really just enjoying yourself and your partner enjoying yourself.

Love can happen at anytime, and it takes a matter of time to nurture it.

So my advice in short? Don't rush anything. Make sure both sides are really comfortable and you've actually had time to grow and learn about each other.

Have fun! You probably have 60 years of your life left! Enjoy it! Fall in love, party, do whatever! (Just don't rush)

And always have faith in your relationship. f one partner starts it, the other will grow to have more faith as well.

But at this point, I'd say chill with them. I'm sure they're really fun to be with. Go do many things. See a movie maybe, hang out, whatevuh^^.


Lots of Love

~Kasuke~    ~Benji~

thank u both

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I've only had two relationships... one was horribly toxic and the other I just sort of fell into the best relationship I've ever seen.

only advice I can say is try not to stress it.  If one (or both) of you keep saying "love is a lot of work"... you may not be as cut out for each other as you thought.  You shouldn't have to work to love someone.  Work at making time, work at understanding, work at other things, yes... but not work at love.

I "worked at love" with my ex, and it is over two and a half years later and I still have emotional issues from what she did to me.  I "worked" at it when I should have been running for the hills from the crazy lady.


With my husband, there has never been any work.  We just fit.


So ya, TL;DR "if you have to work too hard, maybe things are not going as they should".

The physical attraction isn't the issue.  I was attracted to him before he sat on the chair in front of me at our meeting place.  the problem is that i probably came off as a redneck with a dirty mind who just wants a cheep piece of ass.  with an exception to the piece of ass part that is not  is not horribly far from the truth but I am so mush more than that.  I need time for all my colours to be seen and time i fear may have already come to pass.  

aswell he is a shy boy.  I am a verry upfront and somewhat head strong person who can swear alot when exited, and in this case did.  I probubly came on too strong aswell but onily did so to express my intrest in him, it must have been quite intimmidating to be with me.  Although he did say he enjoyed hanging out.

If he said he enjoyed hanging out, take him at his word. You have nothing else to go on at this point and worrying about it will only make you more nervous and excitable next time you hang out.

Trust him when he says it, because if you can't believe he wasn't lying when he said he enjoyed hanging out with you, what's that going to say about the trust should a romantic relationship develop?

Just be yourself.  The more you worry about it the worse you'll look to them, and the more stressed out you'll be.

Hell, my relationship came after being friends with someone for 8 months, and it just kinda happened.  You don't force a relationship to happen, either it works out or it doesn't.


Oh, and for gods sake, don't try to get into their pants within the first month.....