Capital Furs

How does one get reconnected with a scene hes lurked in for a long time. has met a few and liked all hes met so far.
i think iv become the classic socially inapt internet guy.

Fake it until you make it.

How to make friends:
1. Go to place where people are
2. Introduce yourself
3. Continue conversation and be honest

Jump in.

Attend one of the random meets, see who you click with, continue onwards from there.

Randomly PM'ing people helps if you want to find someone who's willing to share info and chat via more convenient means.

Pretty much people got it. Attend a social event. I GUARANTEE you will find someone to chat with. It's unheard of to be alone at a social event.

I went to a club before knowing no one! And guess what? Two ladies came up and danced with me^^ I didn't even know them!

But i guess in the furry fandom? Attend a fur meet, if it helps, get someone to bring you and introduce you to someone to spark conversation :3

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Ooh! Don't over complicate things! If you suck at making friends, find someone who is good at it, have them befriend you, then... oh wait this is getting complicated =D

You've meet some people already right? Try and hang out with them. They know other people and slowly you will start meeting new people in the fandom. Just stick with the people you know and hang out soon enough they will be hanging with you and other people.

Indref wrote:Fake it until you make it.

This.


This actually works for more than this sort of situation. It helped me become more social, friendly, and grew my self esteem. What seems to happen is that people seek out a situation for themselves that's out of their direct control.

So it can often help to fake being a certain way until people see you as such, and at which point it becomes easier to intergrate what you were faking into your own personality (Since your environment already acts as though it was), in this case; if people perceive you as out going, it will help you get out more. You're just gonna have to force it a little for the first little while.

drink.

no, really. you relax and have a topic of conversation (what you're drinking).

buy people drinks.
they like you and are encouraged to hang out.

people dig generosity.

oh, and smoke.

smoking = friendly conversation with strangers. you meet alot of people by smoking.

smokers and drinkers will agree with me on this.